Comments on: On not being able to be heartbroken

By: Amy Sage

Amy Sage — Wed, 13 May 2009 13:08:14 +0000

This is my first time finding your blog, and your words have moved me more than anything has in some time. I grieve with you for your friend, and I am certain he knew — while he was still able to know – how lucky he was to have someone care so much about him.

I hope for the best outcome, whatever that may be.

By: Libby

Libby — Fri, 17 Apr 2009 14:40:50 +0000

I have been in your position. I am sorry you are experiencing this. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.

By: Chris Billett

Chris Billett — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 12:47:41 +0000

I can’t imagine how hard that is. I’m so sorry. I don’t know if there’s any chance of a recovery, but if there is then I really hope that something amazing happens soon.

As for Twitter… I can’t remember how or why I found you on Twitter, as I only follow about five people I don’t know personally, but you constantly have my in tears with your hilarious tweets. I play at being someone else on Twitter too (ok, so it’s more Hank Moody than Jack Handy) and I suppose that both your blog posts about this have surprised me, but it’s reassuring and good to know that there is a regular person behind the humour. I look forward to reading your novel, too.

By: Brian Rafferty

Brian Rafferty — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 17:21:57 +0000

As a cyclist, this story hit me hard. As someone who spends a good deal of time working with specialists in the field of grief and bereavement counseling, your analysis of the outcome is impossible to argue with. in many ways, bereavement counseling is still in its infancy, but in that this seems to be the mirror image of people that have no body or remains to mourn over — and that makes the process more difficult and potentially damaging to the mourners — I hope those close to Stuart are getting counseling and not just trying to soldier through.

By: nancy

nancy — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 05:37:44 +0000

justine… you are very brave for soldiering on and i’m sure i speak for everyone when i say you are appreciated even more in that through your sadness, you are still able to make so many people laugh every day via twitter. i applaud you for that…

my heart goes out to you, stuart and family.

@LucyRcardo
(you followed me on a former account– i lured you with scotch & cookies left at my fireplace, if you recall…)

By: Mike Reed

Mike Reed — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 20:10:21 +0000

Had been wondering how this story resolved, and of course you’re right: this lack of resolution is dreadful. I can’t even imagine what you’re all feeling, but you get us as close to it with these words as we can be, or perhaps would want to be.

Weird and trite as it may sound, all the Twittering and Tumblring is surely a positive thing: it is life continuing, even so. Not, tragically, Stuart’s life, but life nonetheless – and he sounds the sort who would have celebrated that.